Month: December 2022

Darkness. Alluring. Subtle, yet insatiable. The momentum builds and can often appear to be the easiest to submit to. The light builds and reinforces as the darkness seeks to supplant the movement of growth. Often the simplest decision can change the course of a day. That day changes the week, changes the month, changes the character.

Exposure to the darkness seems inevitable and necessary, in fact. The polarity and subtleties of its effects need to be explored, and at times, endured in order for the salience of direction and intention to take root. I have felt a depth of darkness and despair, vivid and seemingly invulnerable to defeat. A darkness so consuming the state became normal and didn’t carry an overtly negative mental conception any more. That depth, in retrospect, was a necessary trial. The break in the half-decade storm was sudden. The light shone through in a sterling moment of clarity. An insurgence of self-worth, self-love, and self-respect, was accentuated by a spontaneous oath to myself, for myself. I chose to be happy, vowed to never mute my self-expression, and swore to embrace love. This was the initial step out of the darkness. The work and commitment endure to this day. The darkness beckons yet, but as I observe that grappling for influence and temporary relief or indulgence, the transience of the movement is clarified, and the lasting effect of the light in its ever-developing presence, steadily becomes the only logical influence to embrace.

In my limited experience on a spiritual path, these notions have been a source of both progress and stagnation. The initial acquaintance with aspects of the “higher self” and the self-perpetuating aspiration for union with the universal source can lead one to feel compelled to be better and “purer” that their current state. This realization and compulsion to strive is initially paramount to the aspirant’s progress and should be regarded as such. However, through my experience, I have found a mental attachment to purification and reinvention to be, at times, a generator of shame and grief, guilt, and the diminishment of self-esteem and self-love. The quest toward a deeper understanding of your higher self and the supreme love conflicts boldly with this self-flagellation. This issue is a complicated one to comment on because, on one hand, I know this advice to be true, on the other hand, I feel enduring the throes of that self-degradation and relentless mental anguish was a necessary experience leading me toward the softening state in which I now dwell. A state in which the mental coarseness of an ideal me is generally overshadowed by a joy and acceptance of my shortcomings. This way of approaching personal growth has been a godsend, as my level of mental struggle has begun to fade. As a result, the transformations toward purity, or in favor of it, come of their own accord, from a gestation undisturbed by the stormwinds of the mind.

I often wrestle with this intention for a deeper perception of the universal, ever-present. There is a deep urge within me to see all as God. To have some inkling of the scope in which the Divine’s dynamism is at work. I have experienced numerous flashes of this, brief moments of sublime synchronicity and beauty, only to have them sifted away by the intellectual urge to probe into that experience and solidify it.

Upon returning from an intensive retreat on my teacher’s property in June of 2018 I felt a lasting strength and joy. There was an outpouring of love to each person I passed, a transient acknowledgment of the ever-present beauty within each person, and a deep sense of belonging and peace. I realize now that that experience was but a fraction of the true depth of bliss and balance this work will bring about. I’ve begun to crave the realization of a deeper unity and the subsequent sense of purpose that will enact. I seek the homecoming and can see now that it is attainable. Perhaps in future writings, I will have come to the integrated realization that all is indeed God, but for now, I will maintain stride and surrender to the itinerary that illusive God has set before me.

This is the first entry I’ve made since my hasty departure from PDX. Fate/God has an interesting sense of humor. I felt an urgency and immediacy toward action that I haven’t felt in some time… a push toward accomplishment by any means necessary. Despite the financial mishap and any potential stigma of failure that might accompany it, I feel as though this transition is one that is/was needed. The laxity and inappropriate/irresponsible Bohemian lifestyle I had adopted wasn’t sustainable in the long term.

Between depending on the kindness of friends/family, adopting three jobs, and facing the intensity of this winter my character and the caliber of my resolve to overcome my situation and rise above it, have become paramount. I feel uneasy and blessed simultaneously. On one hand, I know this is all happening for a reason, on the other hand, I feel it’s impossible for me to take a breath and fully relax until I move into a place of self-sufficiency and upward growth. The hammer continues to strike the anvil and the shape and quality of the blade is uncertain yet, but what I do know is that my best effort is the requisite now, and with patience and slight modulation, the blade has the potential to cut through the eternal.

Forward, never backward from this day forward.

I’m not sure how to broach this subject… but I find (increasingly) that my conceptions about the esoteric nature of reality and my own personal cosmology are of a narrow perspective. Potentially one that I’ve never actually questioned properly. I do feel resonance with specific ideals and beliefs that I’ve formed since the age of 16 when I first met my teacher. Call it (if you’d like) an undisclosed Agnosticism. I now see the error in my extreme distaste for the specific string of Buddhism I encountered in India. I remember revolting from the Dogma and rigidity of the lesson we experienced during the silent retreat only to, nearly a decade later, see that my own faith in Sri Aurobindo’s cosmology has been equally rigid and stifling. This is certainly true in so far as my unwillingness to question or deeply analyze any of the beliefs I held dearly. The beliefs I espoused as axiomatic.

I realize this scrawling is hardly organized or concise. The truth is, I’m still working through these revelations. Ideally, I will spend enough time contemplating this to gain a depth of perspective that will allow me to formulate a practice and spiritual discipline that isn’t predicated on elitism and an US vs. Them mentality, or some other subtly restrictive maxim. I hope to not experience a deep sense of loss or revolt as a byproduct of the unraveling of the Gordian knot of my own spiritual conditioning, which for better or worse I have accepted as the ultimate truth somewhere along the way.

This table is a loose subjective comparison taking a look at the qualities experienced in meditation when there is effort or (pushing) and intellectualization of progress or (Tracking) vs. simply feeling without the need to label.

The trip to see my mom weighs a bit heavy on me. Seeing her beat up, confused, and in such a vulnerable place is hard to come to terms with. Although I was able to get down to Albuquerque and help her, conceivably doing a lot during the half a week I was there, part of me still feels guilt and a sense that I failed her. My heart was hardened and I had a hard time not getting sharp and short with her. Part of me used the easy excuse, blaming it on her bitterness to justify my own meanness. I could have shown up in a more loving/present way, dissolving the stimuli that prompted my stubborn approach.

On the drive back I drove into a rainstorm, and as the rain began to fall, harder and harder, so came my tears. I realized that my inability to love my mother fully was a failing of my own creed and personal ethics. I saw the rain fall over the desert plains nourishing the arid roots, and with a sense of desperation, prayed that my tears and reflections would analogously soften my heart, allowing the true expression of love I’ve been estranged from to come pouring out. I vow to make an effort to be present, to really do the internal work necessary so that the light and love I have to share with humanity can once again beam freely.